Couples Relationship Counselling
People in relationships often come to counselling when they have had enough, so they have reached a spot where the relationship will most likely end if they don’t seek treatment. Therapy is a good place to express that there’s a lack of trust, explore how it was broken, work on forgiveness (or retribution if necessary), and then create a space for new boundaries to be set so healing can begin. Building back trust can be difficult, but it’s far from impossible.
With the right To Tools you can begin to form a solid foundation to Help rebuild your relationship.
The goal of therapy is to develop an understanding of your own needs and the needs of your partner or the person you have a rupture in your relationship with, gain a deeper understanding of your relationship dynamic, re-strengthen your bond, find coping skills, deepen intimacy and develop personal boundaries and self awareness. Finding a good relationship coach means having someone you both trust. Your therapist can listen to what you’re both saying and then give honest, impartial, unbiased feedback. This outside lens is an important benefit. It allows you to be your authentic selves, and get a professional’s take on where to head next. During conflict feeling safe is something both sides struggle with. To truly navigate conflict, you must be willing to eventually become vulnerable, open up, and be honest. That can be scary. Couples counselling creates a safe space where boundaries are set and enforced, and a neutral third party oversees the process and can intervene when necessary.
No relationship is perfect and there will be difficult times you need to learn to navigate.
Having the right coping skills in place can help you and your partner and/or person you are in relationship with, get through challenging times together.
EFT
Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) for Couples/Relationships is a highly effective process to help people suffering from distress, including rupture and disconnection. EFT is based on a theory of adult love and attachment. It recognizes that relationship distress results from a perceived threat to basic adult needs for safety, security, and closeness in in intimate relationships.
Counselling helps by:
Working to strengthen attachment bonds which in turn means people feel safe together; realise that they are the a (sometimes the most) important person to each other; become more flexible in problem solving; communicate better; and feel more securely connected.
When triggered we have individual responses which can trigger our relationships. Discovering these patterns can be life changing, The walls that kept you distant from each other can crumble away and the feelings for each other grow stronger.
Working to heal and manage the trials of human emotions, I have witnessed clients find peace, safety and happiness both within their relationships in themselves, and that of partners and persons they are in relationship with.
I have also studied and researched various other modalities of couples counselling including Ester Perel, Harville Hendrix, Gabor Matte, Terry Real and the Gottman Method.